If you are going through a divorce as a parent, it is crucial to develop a parenting plan that considers the best interests of your children. This is not always as simple as it sounds, because oftentimes both parents have different ideas about what is best.
This already complicated process can be even more difficult if your spouse has narcissistic tendencies.
Develop the parenting plan
Having been in a relationship with this person, you likely already know how narcissism affects a marriage or partnership. However, how will this behavior affect you when planning for the future of co-parenting?
The focus of any parenting plan is to consider the needs of the children and establish the responsibilities of each parent. This plan will be especially important when co-parenting with someone with narcissistic behaviors.
Take the extra time and effort to account for every possible scenario in your parenting plan, as a narcissist will likely manipulate any aspect not explicitly covered. Be as specific and detailed as possible.
Beyond the parenting plan
Coparenting with someone who does not value the feelings and wishes of others will not be an easy task. Expect that you will face difficulties and prepare yourself for how to cope with them. Even when you may feel in need of support, find ways to support your children instead. Remember that narcissism does not stop at adult relationships, it often extends into parent-child relationships, as well.
Continue to maintain your empathy and levelheadedness, and keep the focus on your children.
