Social media is a universal presence in many people’s lives. It can be a great way to share life events and stay connected with friends and family. However, how you use your social media can sometimes be harmful to you when you’re going through a divorce.
Social media as a venting platform
There’s no question that divorce can be stressful, frustrating and emotionally taxing. Especially in contested cases, you might have pent up thoughts and feelings about your ex. However, if you’re feeling spiteful, vengeful or just plain angry, social media is not the place to express those feelings.
It might feel good in the moment to put your ex on blast for everyone to see, but it can have unforeseen consequences for you in the divorce proceedings.
The pitfalls of a bad post
When you upload something to your social media — whether it be a photo, video or comment — it’s not always easy to take it back or hide it. Deleting a post doesn’t mean it’s gone forever. Blocking or unfriending your ex doesn’t mean they won’t ever see it. All it takes is for someone else to see your post and screenshot it. And what you post on social media can negatively impact the rulings of several important divorce proceedings, including:
- Asset division
- Child custody
- Child support
For example, if you post a photo of yourself going out on a weeknight, your ex could use that post as evidence against you in a child custody battle.
Stay away from the screens
If you aren’t sure what social media posts can get you into trouble, it’s best to err on the side of caution and avoid social media altogether during your divorce.
However, you’ll still need positive support and encouraging feedback. Instead of turning to social media for it, consider contacting family members and friends individually to talk over the phone or in a face-to-face meeting. You can also find good support systems in counselors and attorneys who are willing to take your side and help you through this difficult time.